The Relationship Process
Day 3 – Noticing what you are seeing
Today’s work is only to notice what you think you see when you look at the healing being. The healing being has seemed to cause your pain, but this one is actually offering an opportunity for healing.
When I look at [Name], I see ______________________.
If you see loving things when you look at the healing being, wonderful! But be completely honest. Do truly believe the healing being possesses certain qualities that she would be better off without? Find at least one that feels honest for you. One stands for all the rest, and it is enough.
I see anger.
I see an inability to listen.
I see someone who is oblivious.
I see viciousness.
I see someone who is closed off.
I see aggression.
All of these are different forms of your resistance to love, mirrored back to you. It doesn’t matter which one you pick, as long as it feels honest for you.
Now it is time to see how thought works. It becomes habitual. If you have been accepting loving thoughts as your own, they become habitual, and you hear more of them. If you have been accepting disturbed thoughts as your own, they become habitual, and you hear more of them.
Notice this. You hear thoughts, and then you accept them. You are always the one who decides to believe the thought or to return it to sender. This is your freedom and your power. After you accept thoughts, your world reflects those thoughts back to you. The characters in your world provide confirmation for the thoughts you accepted. Loving thoughts come to you from the Source with which you are one. Unloving thoughts use the power you are to distort thoughts from Heaven into an illusion that you believe. Believing in an illusion always hurts.
Knowing this, acknowledge that a habit is already existing or forming. For example, if when you look at Ellen you see anger, ask yourself if this habit already exists, or if it is just forming.
When I look at [Name], I see ___________________. This habit is established/forming.
When you think of the healing being today, remember this:
[Name], you are assisting me in witnessing how thoughts become beliefs and experiences. Thank you for your role in my healing.
End with this acknowledgment:
[Name] is a healing being playing an important role in my acceptance of the happiness that is always there for me. I am willing to allow my perceptions to change. My work is whole, perfect and complete.