Everyone’s capital-S Self is truly helpful. The capital-S Self is what truly exists everywhere. The conflicting selves are inventions, clusters of ego thought experienced and re-experienced. Ego has you find your stability in an imagined past. So when you think you know someone, you think you know their patterns. You believe you know what to expect, and so you can predict, manage, and adjust from the vantage point of a separate self.
Now we are telling you that all this management and remembering, all this planning and defending, is unnecessary. Believing the selves are separate, you also believe that you need to please them and to maintain many separate relationships, again, from the vantage point of a separate, cut-off self.
You are joined in one Self. It is a worthy Self. It can be allowed to extend, whomever you look upon. Whenever you feel not-good in relation to what you are calling another separate self, you are projecting fear outward and then experiencing it. As you allow their shared Self to extend, you allow your own to extend. Paying attention to how you feel, accepting, resting, and allowing–this is the way to allow the Self you are with all to extend.
One thing the ego can assign you is to enact, from ego thought, a role of helpful perfection in an insane world. Ego will sit on its throne and dictate to you what is helpful and what is not helpful about you, about selves separate from you, and about things and conditions in the world. You have been following because you didn’t know a different way, but now you do.
Think of beautiful, shining love being contained within everyone and everything, and as you place a priority upon really being here with all, resting in quiet and allowing what they actually are to step forward, it does. This means that you will have to deny many calls to action that ego sends you. You are used to habitual calls to action coming from fear. This part has to slow and stop before the next part can step forward.
Yes, Spirit will also issue calls to action, but you have to be able to hear them and to trust in them. The sense that you as a separate one are planning and managing–that tension is your cue to drop into practice. Know nothing in this moment. Remember that guidance is here and can make itself obvious. Trust. Instead of charging ahead as the ego would have you do, rest, and trust in this rest. Everything needed will be provided for you and all from here.
Actual love is already here. You can trust in it. Actual love is what everyone is. You can rest and trust. Ego convinces you to take little side quests into nothingness and meaninglessness. You do not have to wander away. Everything you need, and therefore everything everyone you call else needs, is right here. The ego does not understand how actual needs are addressed. It just invents fake needs, assigns them to a separate one it calls you, and then sends pretend-you in search of things to fulfill these imagined needs.
You can wind down from all of this now. You can allow what seems to be this organizing structure to fade. What is truly here, what never left, can come into prominence as you remember how to put your focus here.
We recommend this version of an A Course in Miracles lesson:
Salvation comes from the one Self I share with ______________.
This helps ease the borders you erected between selves, and it takes your attention away from behaviorally forcing yourself across a border. To do that is to reinforce the border. Rest in what is the same, and allow sameness to guide both you and that one you are calling other. It happens together. It happens harmonically. It happens because of the great love that is always here for you and all. It happens as a gift you are finally allowing.
Anything that cleanses and clarifies one relationship cleanses and clarifies all relationships. So just work where you are today, where you seem to be. Allow everything far-distant from you to fade away. You have everything you need right here. If something far distant either in space or time seems to come to mind today, then just work gently with it. At its core is the same Love you are and always will be forever. There is nothing to fear, even if it seems to have a fearful surface.
When this idea of something distant in space or time comes to mind today, just observe what the ego is trying to tell you about it. Set it down gently. You do not need this. Whatever the ego is telling you is no cause for concern. You have no need to worry yourself to safety if what you and all are together is safety itself. Focus here, and allow safety itself to step forward and make itself obvious to you. Notice that this space of allowing safety to make itself obvious requires no struggle and no future planning. Rest here, and you rest in what is eternal and what is truly helpful.
We love to rest with you. We see that you and all are fully supplied by this rest. We see that all is well, and we share that with you.
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